I never got the baby blues or postpartum depression. I struggled hard with anxiety and depression before I had my daughter and it was a serious worry for me but I was lucky enough that my pregnancy and baby pulled me out of that. Depression doesn't discriminate so if you're having a hard time please seek help. I had a different kind of baby anxiety. Separation anxiety. I never wanted to put her down or do anything without her because every second without her a second I will never get back. Poof! Just like that it is gone forever and she’s another second older. At 14 months that means another second sassier than the last. But, I still have a very hard time giving up those precious seconds. As beautiful and amazing as it is you realize you aren’t a person anymore. You are mom, you are food, you are sleep, you are comfort, the maid, the diaper changer, bath giver on and on but then you realize you put YOU on hold. You got the back burner because the sweetest angel in the world was soooo worth it. But, you can’t pour from an empty cup. You will get tired and burned out and cranky. SELF CARE AND SELF LOVE! If you are a stay at home mom you know how hard this is. “God, I need a shower! Did I brush my teeth today? Oh there’s my coffee I made this morning and then never drank”
Take a walk, take a bath, read a book, do something for you! As hard as it is you HAVE to prioritize you! Don’t feel guilty and ask a parent, friend, husband, or even babysitter. Schedule your me time if need be just make sure you get it done. Put it on your freaking to do list.
I started my own business! In a sense. I joined a network marketing company. Yes, I know you’re thinking omg those people are soo annoying with their cold messaging at 5 am when you are tired and pregnant and “no thank you lady I’m happy with my fat ass but thank you for waking me up and telling me I need to work out!” No, it’s not that kind of company. We are better of course. In the way that we absolutely don’t cold message people and our mission in life is to single handedly help the women of the world from self-doubt and make them realize their worth and get paid it! Buuutt no big deal. You probably wouldn’t be interested anyway I mean I just get paid to have makeup parties with my friends it’s not fun at all. Kidding of course it’s a ton of fun that is where I found my THANG. Whatever it is that you are interested in exploring don’t let fear hold you back. Whether it be a hobby, a job, working out, whatever it is find something just for you! Something you can pour yourself into and lights a spark! You have to feel alive and excited and FIRE!!!! You’ll know it when you find it and if you find something and you’re just like ehh this could be okay. Drop it like it’s hot and keep on searching girlfriend. I feel incredibly blessed that I found this while I was still pregnant because I think it has helped me tremendously in navigating and trying to find my balance. Don’t get me wrong. I’m still a damn mess, as is my house most of the time but, I can honestly say I love my life and to be honest that’s a first. Of course, it’s all a combination of finding “my thing”, the man of my dreams and getting two incredibly gorgeous children.